If I asked each one of you to describe your perfect banana, every answer would be different. Some would talk about a green and crisp banana, one almost immediately pulled from the tree. Others might tell me of one that is all yellow, no hint of green left to show its youth and yet no spot of brown to display its age. Another group might hope for an older banana, one soft and sweet. People have different preferences when it comes to bananas.
From an objective perspective, one version is no better or worse than another. There is no right or wrong answer. You define what a perfect banana is to you.
Your life should be no different.
Growing up, we are taught what a perfect life should be. Our parents, our teachers, our friends, not to mention television, movies, and social media all send messages to us about what we should value, what we should pursue, and who we should hope to be.
Houses should be big (and owned). Job titles should be impressive. Clothes should be designer. Vacations should be extravagant. Bodies should be toned and tight. Social lives should be active… The list of “should be’s” is long.
We don’t start off creating these things. Other people give us the “should be’s.” They try to tell us how to like our bananas. Like a gift with purchase, we receive their unsolicited advice of all we should be and have.
And, it is then, in that moment, we have the most power. Do we accept and believe the “should be” or do we reject it and file it away as the priority and value of the giver and not of ourselves?
We get to define what perfection is for our own lives. It might be the booming career that provides the nice car and the huge home in an affluent neighborhood with six-pack abs and a model-looking partner. Or, it could be in a two-bedroom apartment in an okay part of town with maybe some love handles that you’re working on while you dive into the dating pool. Your perfect life could be one version one day and another the next or it could always hover somewhere in between.
The important thing to remember when envisioning your perfect life is that it doesn’t matter what it looks like to others. How does your life taste to you?
From an objective perspective, one version is no better or worse than another. There is no right or wrong answer. You define what a perfect life is to you.
At the end of the day, perfection is just bananas.